The Sloan Family

July 23rd 2012 is a day I wish I could forget. It was the day my whole world fell apart. My precious daughter, Emma, lost her life in a horrific car accident.

Emma was a young single mother of three and had just celebrated her 29th birthday a month before her death. She was stolen from her father and I, her brother and two sisters, her nieces and nephews, friends and family. But most importantly, she was taken from her children who were so very young. Bailey had just turned 9 two weeks earlier, Preston was 7 and Isabella was only 4.

I will never forget the heartbreaking task of explaining to my precious grandchildren that Mummy was involved in a bad car accident and the doctors tried their hardest but couldn’t fix her. Telling the children that Mummy had died and has gone to live in heaven was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I assured them that everything would be ok and that they could live with us.

I left my job and went back to caring for the children full time. It has been much more exhausting this time around, I guess it’s because I’m a little older. After two long years of court appearances, it has finally been ruled that the children will remain in our care.

Six months after Emma grew her wings, we moved house. We thought it was important to make the house “Our Home” rather than the children living at Ma and Pa’s. The kids are so grateful to have their own rooms and have settled in well.

We have an amazing garden for their Mummy, it is so colourful and a great source of comfort for all. I often find the kids sitting in the garden having a chat to Mum, which always puts a smile on my face. Last year on Emma’s birthday we held a Morning tea in memory of Emma and to raise funds for Feel the Magic. With only 8 days of planning, the day went well and we managed to raise just over a thousand dollars. The kids raised $70 of that total on their own. They set up a shop in the little cubby house, complete with signs. They sold loom bands that they had been busy making. I was so very proud of them. So much sadness but they managed to think of others. We are planning this as an annual event and have already started planning for this year. It is a special way for us to celebrate Emma’s life and raise funds and awareness for our chosen charity.

We also have a special Mum cupboard in the lounge room. It is adorned with photos, angels, feathers, trinkets and candles.

Emma was such a beautiful girl, a kind-hearted and loving soul. She was always happy and so full of life. She was very fashionable and loved her bling. She also had an obsession for shoes and bags. She loved music and dancing. She loved to spend time with family and friends. Emma was always fun to be around and had the knack of making you smile.

Bailey, Preston and Isabella are so much like their Mum, I quite often see them do something and think “yep Emma”.

All our lives have changed since that dreadful day. The grief journey is very much like a roller coaster. There are many ups and downs. No parent should ever have to bury his or her child. No child should have to grow up without their mother. Unfortunately, it is a fact of life. All we can do is pull together and help each other get through this the best we can. Lots of love and cuddles and keep Mums memory alive.

Meeting the Feel the Magic family has shown us that it is possible to smile again. And for that I say thank you.

Wendy Sloan

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